Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Christian Dating in Middle Age

The perils of being single in middle age are compounded by being a Christian.

I've finally reached a point now where I've decided I'm not going to just date anyone because I'm lonely. It's been a tough decision, but I'm pretty determined. When my broken marriage was new and the loneliness stark and painful, I was pretty desperate to find someone. I'm not saying I'm not keen to find someone right now as I have moments when the loneliness gets to me, but something has happened inside of me - a temperance and a desire to do things the right way.

I believe in God and I believe he loves us very much. Although I'm a pretty free-thinking person, I still rely strongly on my faith in my life. And I believe that God can show me the way forward in finding the love of my life. I truly believe there is someone there for me and that I will meet and fall in love with them at the right time. There are days when I wonder how long I will have to wait. Something in me believes it's not going to be too long, but another part of me believes that the timing has to be right and that I have to be ready in my heart for this person. Maybe I need more healing to take place. Maybe I need to grow as a person in certain ways. Sure, a part of me is pretty impatient, but I need to enjoy the process and journey to get there. I shouldn't always be hankering for the future when love will be in my life again. Every day is a gift and I'm going to relish each moment, no matter how hard.

Being an editor of romance novels has its pitfalls too. I keep reading lovely stories about heroines falling in love with sexy, wonderful men. It's really hard not to pine for such a thing in my own life. Yet, it's also nice to dream that it's possible.

I've reached a point now when my faith is influencing my decisions in dating. I feel strongly that I shouldn't be online dating. Maybe it's also Tinder burnout. Ugh. It really was awful and a complete waste of my time and such a yo-yo of emotions. I also believe the best way to meet someone is in real life - to see them in action and when around other people. There are times when I get tempted to go back on Tinder, but almost as soon as I go onto the app, I get this sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. It's so impersonal. It's like putting a human being in your shopping cart as if they're a commodity to choose from a whole lot of others. Ugh.

I also felt God expressly tell me not to date a certain person even though I really like them! Sigh. This one has been one of the hardest ones to follow, but I believe God's gifted me with an intuition and I need to follow that. So, I've prayed to him and also asked the angels. I want to know this time when I meet a guy that he's the one. There are just too many fears in my heart now. I want to know right from the beginning that I can open my heart to someone, because I've been through enough. I can't bear to get my heart broken a second time. This time, I want someone who will commit to me for life. And God knows my heart. I'm trusting him to show me this person - that I will know in my heart when I get to know them. I will feel a "yes" in the depths of my being.

The hardest thing is resisting temptation. After being married for 20 years, my body really, really wants a man to love. But I'm not going to sleep around. My desire now is to wait for that man who is committed to me. I'm not going to give my heart away dozens of times (and risk my health in the process too). I don't have a legalistic idea about sex in the Bible, but I do believe that sleeping with every guy we date is not good for women. I think the ideas in the Bible are there to protect women. Modern-day beliefs that we need to check out the compatibility of all these potential mates only hurts the souls of women because when we sleep with a guy, we give him a part of our heart. I even read somewhere that their DNA enters our bloodstream and stays there the rest of our lives. It's quite a scary thought actually. I don't judge anyone who doesn't think like I do. We all have different ways of navigating this treacherous world of dating, but this is just something that I believe. It's taken me a while to come back to this belief, as I thought it was a little outdated. Now, I believe it's there for my good. I have to confess that there are days when I want to throw caution to the wind and just forget this stupid determination I've made. Some days I just want to have that fling with a sexy man even if I know it's not going to lead to forever. I'm not going to promise that I'll stick to my guns, but I admit, that something has happened deep in my heart. It's like I know I want to do this the right way now. I know God is going to help me to, no matter how tempting it is. I don't want the fallout of a fling anymore. I want real, genuine love. I won't settle for less.


Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Abby's Letters by Dana Romanin


Today, I want to welcome fellow Clean Reads author, Dana Romanin, who is talking about her novel, Abby's Letters.

Blurb:

For years, Jane’s mom told her horror stories about her time spent in foster care. Now she’s determined to keep her little sister from suffering the same fate.

Seventeen-year-old Jane Sanders has had to take care of her alcoholic mother and little sister, Abby, since her dad died seven years ago. And now Mom had to go and die too. Authorities determine it was a homeless transient who died in the fire of the old manufacturing plant, but Jane knows the truth.

There is no way she’s going to let Abby go into foster care which leaves her with one option—fake her mom’s life. As far as Abby knows, their mom is in rehab. And Jane wants to keep it that way. She’d be eighteen in a few months then she could become legal guardian to her sister. With the help of her best friend, Clark, it should be easy, right?

Juggling nosy neighbors, a concerned school counselor, and an oblivious new boyfriend turns out to be harder than Jane thought. But the real problem begins when Abby starts writing letters to Mom. Through Abby’s letters, Jane sees a different side to their mom—a side she could have loved. And loving Mom is something she didn’t plan on. Because loving somebody makes it harder to ignore their death.

Excerpt from Abby’s Letters:

Clark exhaled. “Anything for you, Janie.”

Oh. He had to pull out the nickname. It crushed her. Asking Clark to lie for her—she had never asked so much of him. It went against everything he believed in. She didn’t believe in all that Christian stuff, but he did. Keeping this secret would mean disrespecting his mother. It meant he would have to go against his beliefs.

Disrespect his God.

But his God wasn’t there for her, and He certainly wasn’t going to save Abby from foster care.

Jane would, though.

She entwined her fingers with his. He was so different than the little boy who’d played hide-and-seek with her on warm summer nights, back when her world was filled with her father’s laughter and her mother’s smiles. Now his muscle twitched in his strong jawline. What happened to the freckle-faced boy she had played G.I. Joe and Transformers with? He even had stubble.

“Thanks, Superman.”

“You’re the only one allowed to call me that.”

“And you’re the only one allowed to call me Janie.”

“This is too much. You can’t do this alone.” His thumb caressed her hand.

“I’m not. I have you.”

Endorsements:

“Heart-wrenching, beautiful, and complex, Abby’s Letters is an exquisitely written treatise on mother-daughter relationships, forgiveness, and love. Romanin skillfully tells this fragile family’s story with tenderness and grace, highlighting the interplay of a young woman’s painful past, uncertain future, and unflinching sisterly devotion. Each moment in this novel is a treasure shaped by masterful prose and lyrical storytelling. Do not miss this book. This is a story that should be read by anyone who is a mother or who loves one.”

--Megan Whitson Lee, author of Suburban Dangers and the award-winning novel, Captives.

“Dana Romanin’s debut novel is a poignant tale of love and lives lost, and one girl’s attempt to keep what’s left of her family together, despite all the odds. A wonderful and thought-provoking read.”

--Diana Sharples, young adult author of Running Lean.

Buy Links:


Amazon: Amazon

Barnes & Noble: Barnes and Noble

Author Bio: 

Dana Romanin has dreamed of being a writer since she was a little girl pretending to be Anne Shirley (from Anne of Green Gables). She used to write under a forsythia bush, but now she writes in a messy office that she shares with her sewing-obsessed daughter.

Dana’s short story, The Silence of Sand, was chosen for adaptation into a short film performed by the Blue Man Group. Dana has also published short fiction for teens in Encounter—The Magazine and had a short story published in a Family Fiction anthology, The Story 2014. Her first novel, Abby’s Letters, releases in June 2017.

She lives in a small town near the Blue Ridge Mountains in Virginia with her wonderful husband, three beautiful kids, and a lot of persnickety pets.

You can find her blog and awkward videos on her website www.DanaRomanin.com. She can also be found on Twitter (@DanaRomanin) and her Facebook fan page (DanaRomaninAuthor).

Thursday, June 22, 2017

Naked Attraction by Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku

Stella is here again, talking about another new release called Naked Attraction. Wow, she's a mean writing machine!

Author: Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku
Genre: Romance/Contemporary/Interracial/Multicultural
No of Pages: 262
ISBN: 978-1542402040 (Paperback)
Release Date: January 24th 2017
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Quote


“As long as you lock me up in the same cell as you, I’ll be happy to spend a long time behind bars without complaining.” ~ Mofe.

Read Naked Attraction to find out how Mofe, a hot & sexy Café owner tempts and pursues Ronke, a feisty & sassy female District Judge.

Blurb


~ A dangerous attraction…is mounting ~

Replaying her hip-wriggling dance steps in his head, Mofe is on the trail of a dancer he saw in a beach club in Europe. No one seems to recall who she is, not even the beach club owner. But he has her picture on his phone. When he walks into the city’s courtroom and sets eyes on the female District Judge presiding over his brother’s case, he knows he has found the elusive dancer. Whether or not his brother receives a jail sentence is in her hands.

Caring for her little sister takes up most of Ronke’s free time, but she knows how to juggle work with having a good time abroad dancing on bar tables. The moment Ronke locks gaze with the dark, gorgeous man with rippling muscles and tattooed arms, a dangerous attraction sizzles inside her. With no plans to forgo her current no-strings secret affair, she disappears without a trace, hoping never to see the stranger again. But when he walks into her courtroom, her stomach walls tighten and she can barely breathe.

Can Mofe convince a woman who holds the key to his brother’s future to date him? And will Ronke deny her attraction to protect her reputation?

~ From the Author of His Ring ~ A Sweet & Steamy Romance ~

Purchase Links







Createspace Paperback: https://www.createspace.com/6843469

 

Teaser


“The question is why would a magistrate judge be spotted dancing on a bar table in nothing but a bra and thong in one of Europe’s beach clubs? And then appear serious on Monday morning in a London courtroom wearing a wig and black gown?” While he waited for her answer, he took a passing look around her chambers.

Thick, leather-bound books graced wooden shelves on every side, but the room was immaculate and clean. Grey carpets complimented the beige upper walls.

The gold and black name plaque on the desk indicated her name was District Judge Ronke Oni.

“What I do with my time is none of your business,” Ronke snapped as she swivelled around. But a sly grin wired her full lips as she got up on her feet.

Gone was the dark gown. And so was the funny wig. Now, her silky white ruffled top fell wide open, enough for him to see the swell of her cleavage.

Peeling his eyes away from her chest was not easy, but he tried. With the black skirt suit plastered around her body so tight, she looked like a bomb waiting to explode.

Electric currents flashed through his body and he laughed to quench the upsurge.

Up close, she looked a little older than he’d thought, still, she was a raving beauty.

“And what was it you wanted from the dancer?” Ronke asked with her arms folded beneath her busts, pushing her breasts further out of her top.

And for a fleeting second, he wondered if she wedged her full breasts with a lacy bra.


“Are you kidding me, Ma’am? You’re not going to deny the fact you’re an erotic dancer over the weekend and a learned woman during the week?”

With her butt perched against her curved walnut desk and her legs crossed at the ankle, she looked like a sexy model about to strip off her clothes for the camera.

And as long as he was the photographer, they would have an album of perfect shots.

“Since you took the trouble to trace me down here...” she started.

About the Author




I'm Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku, the author of several toe-curling & heart-fluttering Flirty & Feisty Romance Novels consisting of Contemporary/Interracial and Historical & Paranormal Romance. There are 17 published books so far.
Just so you know, I'm a romantic freak, mother of two fun - loving teenagers, married to my gorgeous husband and we live in London, UK. If my teens had their way, they would fill our home with a dozen pets. Swimming on my back like a star-fish is one of my skills.

My stories are dotted with unexpected twists and are set in fascinating Africa, enticing Europe and enchanting America. An emotional spin is what you get when you read my books. Please write or connect with me on social media. I love reading from you.

 

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Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Enticed Forever by Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku

Today, I want to welcome Stella to my blog. She writes emotional and very sexy romances. She's talking about her books and especially her new release, Enticed Forever.

Book Title: Enticed Forever ~ A Bad Boy Romance




Author: Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku
Genre: Romance/Contemporary/Interracial/Multicultural
No of Pages: 332
ISBN: 978-1542402040 (Paperback)
Release Date: April 13th 2017
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Quote from Enticed Forever

I will love you at your worst and at your weakest. – Theo Galanos

Blurb


~ An Attraction…so Irresistible ~

Millionaire bad boy, Theo Galanos has two things worked out. Women want anything money can buy. And he has no problems keeping them sweet as long as his heart is not involved. But when he hits a car and sends it spinning off the road, he meets Aize, an attractive woman in a figure-hugging dress who wants nothing he has to offer. Nothing prepares him for the body-popping tension which grips his chest and nearly sweeps him off his feet.

Aize must find the President of Galanos Holdings, get him to approve the all-important contract if she must secure the promotion she wants. But the mysterious man, rumoured to be Hampshire’s bad boy is hard to catch. When her car is bumped off the road and she opens her eyes on a hospital bed, the exotic-speaking and muscular man staring down at her sends shockwaves through her cleavage.

Faced with the sexy man who only gives a woman what money can buy, Aize is torn between giving up on her promotion and allowing her heart sway her head. Will Theo let go of his selfish desire?

~ From the Author of Naked Attraction: A Sweet & Sexy Romance ~


Purchase Links





Amazon US Paperback: http://amzn.to/2pnsCp1


Createspace Paperback: https://www.createspace.com/6945767

Teaser


Middle of the night at 3 a.m.

Bang! Bang!

The crashing sound and Aize’s howling sent Theo racing down several flights of stairs, half-naked. His feet thudded across the carpeted hallway all the way to the guest room.

Out of his mind with fear, he pushed the door open.

The room was bathed in absolute darkness, so he stabbed on the wall switch. On the bed, Aize shielded her eyes with her right hand from the sudden glare of light.

Near the bed, one of the bedside teal-coloured table lamps was broken to pieces. ‘Jeez!’ he exclaimed. The table lamp must have received a hard knock.

As Theo stepped forward, his heart broke when he saw Aize’s face awash with tears. Getting into bed beside her, he crooned, ‘My God! Shish baby, I’m here. Don’t cry, you’ll be alright.’

Cradling her head on his bare chest, he ran his fingers through her thick, wavy hair, careful not to touch her plastered temple. ‘Calm down, baby,’ he soothed when her breathing remained rapid and shallow.

Her distress, quelled the tension in his groin.

‘I had a nightmare,’ Aize whimpered when she could speak. ‘It was terrifying.’

‘I’m here, okay?’ he assured her.

Suddenly, she scowled at the room and turned up her eyes to glare at him. ‘Where am I?’ she wailed, fright oozing from her voice.

‘You’re in my home and you’re safe. Calm down baby, I’ve got you in my arms. No one is going to hurt you.’

Aize pushed away from him and jumped from his lap, moving to sit at the other end of the double bed.

‘In your house? How did I get here?’ she asked, narrowing her eyes. ‘Why didn’t you take me to my own home?’

 

About the Author



I'm Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku, the author of several toe-curling & heart-fluttering Flirty & Feisty Romance Novels consisting of Contemporary/Interracial and Historical & Paranormal Romance. There are 17 published books so far.
Just so you know, I'm a romantic freak, mother of two fun - loving teenagers, married to my gorgeous husband and we live in London, UK. If my teens had their way, they would fill our home with a dozen pets. Swimming on my back like a star-fish is one of my skills.

My stories are dotted with unexpected twists and are set in fascinating Africa, enticing Europe and enchanting America. An emotional spin is what you get when you read my books. Please write or connect with me on social media. I love reading from you. https://www.amazon.com/Stella-Eromonsere-Ajanaku/e/B004LXE09E/ 


Connect with Stella on Social Media


Google+: https://plus.google.com/u/0/106790524289597144280/posts

All Flirty & Feisty Romance Novels are available on:


Flirty & Feisty Romance 

Our promise...is to deliver an intensely emotional experience you'll never forget.

Monday, June 19, 2017

Anxiety

I've come to the conclusion that I suffer from anxiety. The last month or so, due to difficult circumstances in my life, my symptoms have reached their peak and it's taken a toll on my body. But there are ways to cope and gradually I'm finding things that help. I hope that this post can help someone, even if you only suffer mild symptoms. These ideas / actions have helped me:


1. I'm strong. No matter how I feel or think about myself, I am a strong person and I can get through this.


2. Worry doesn't get me anywhere. It's important to plan for the future but to go over all the negative possibilities in the mind eventually takes its toll on the mind and body and robs a person of their life.


3. Practising gratefulness is a good way to deal with anxiety and dark thoughts.


4. Being mindful and recognizing my negative thought patterns helps to stop them before they get out of hand and my body takes a downward spiral.


5. Exercise!! (I think this is honestly one of the best). I've just started running again and have to say it's one of the best things in the world! (Even if I only have time for about fifteen minutes.)


6. Self-care. Taking time every day - no matter how long my to-do list is - to do things that make me happy is vital. It's not selfish. It's about survival.


7. Believe. Having faith that God has my best interests at heart and that he is working things out is the only way I can cope. I have to surrender and stop trying to control everything. It's one of the scariest things in the whole world, but control comes from fear and fear doesn't open the way to good things. 


If you've gone through anxiety at all, what has helped you to cope?

Thursday, June 8, 2017

Spotlight on Iris Blobel's More Beginnings


Today, I want to welcome my writer friend, Iris, to my blog. She's talking about her latest book - More Beginnings.




~~ More Beginnings ~~
by Iris Blobel






♥♦♥ BLURB ♥♦♥


Zach Taylor, an escort in Sydney, living in Hobart, enlists the help of Natasha Peterson when his teenage friend, Mia, runs away. He soon finds out that the ‘dragon’ is really more of a kitten. And although Natasha, Mia’s teacher, is attracted to him as well, she has her own problems to deal with, not to mention her initial reaction to Zach’s occupation.


Will Zach’s job keep him from a chance to be with Natasha?



Life is good for teenager Mia Levesque. But when Darren Schuster shows up in Hobart, she knows something is up once Sophie and Mark cut their weekend away short and rush home in the middle of the night. When Sophie won’t answer Mia’s questions, emotions run high, and Zach confirms Darren’s identity to Mia. Disappointed, angry, and feeling alone, Mia runs away.



Will life settle back into a routine for Mia once she finds out about the stranger in her life?



 New Beginnings have given the Levesque girls a new start in life, will More Beginnings be another chance for them?





♥♦♥ EXCERPT ♥♦♥

Zach Taylor’s young neighbour, Mia,
let out a long sigh as she joined him on his front porch and sat next to him on
the swing. Enjoying a cool lemonade, he invited her to grab a soft drink from
the fridge as well. It was a warm summer day, and the air showed no sign of
cooling down. A lot of people in Hobart were weary of the unusual hot spell for
the very southern Australian city.
With another hefty sigh, Mia
raked through her long, blond hair and stared into the distance. “Honestly,
Zach, she’s a dragon. I’m sure she does it on purpose. She doesn’t like me. She
thinks I’m spoilt.”
The dragon in question was
Miss Peterson, Mia’s high school English teacher. There was no doubt that Mia
liked school, and she enjoyed her classes. And even though English wasn’t her
worst subject, it certainly was the toughest one, with Miss Peterson piling on
homework one after the other.
Zach took a sip of his drink
before he replied, “Hey, pumpkin, settle down. What’s that supposed to mean
you’re ‘spoilt’?”
She lifted her shoulder in a
slight shrug. “You know!”
Raising his brows, he replied,
“Actually I don’t know! Isn’t she Sophie’s good friend?”
Another shrug. “Kind of, I suppose.
They used to do the boxing stuff together, and since Soph’s carrying a baby,
they go and enjoy coffee and cake instead every once in a while.”
Ignoring his chuckle, she went
inside and helped herself to cold lemonade. She opened the can with a simple click
as she returned outside and took a long sip.


♥♦♥ MEET THE AUTHOR ♥♦♥
  
IRIS BLOBEL


Iris Blobel was born and raised in Germany and only immigrated to Australia in the late 1990s. Having had the travel bug most of her life, Iris spent quite some time living in Scotland, London as well as Canada where she met her husband. Her love for putting her stories onto paper has only emerged recently, but now her laptop is a constant companion.


Iris resides west of Melbourne with her husband and her two beautiful daughters.


Next to her job at a private school, she also presents a German Program at the local Community Radio.




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Friday, May 19, 2017

Africa Online Book Fair Interview of Jayne Bauling


Today I want to welcome fellow South African writer, Jayne Bauling, who is being interviewed for the African Online Book Fair Blog Tour.


Can you tell us a little about yourself? 
I’m a fourth-generation South African on my father’s side, and grew up in Johannesburg, but now live in White River in Mpumalanga. I was fortunate to begin my writing career with 17 novels published by Mills & Boon in the UK, so I learned from some of the best editors in publishing, which served me well when I moved on to writing for the YA market.

What do you enjoy about being an author? 
What I love best is being able to share with others the characters, emotions and plots that spring into my head. Writing really is about sharing.

What type of romance stories do you write? And why? 
These days, although my teenage characters face some fairly harsh social challenges, there is always a tender relationship contained within the story.

Favorite place in Africa? 
Kruger Park, and I’m lucky to live within half an hour’s drive of this beautiful place, so I can drop in for a morning or a day when I feel the need to leave the world and its demands behind. I love the thrill of sighting animals and birds in the wild, but even if I don’t see much, just being in the bush restores and refreshes me.


Why do you think African romance authors and stories set on the continent are important?
The prime reason is that readers love characters and settings they can identify with, but there is also the fact that Africa is a vast continent, encompassing many cultures, and the more we learn about our similarities and differences, the more we will understand each other.

Do you think romance stories set in Africa & Africans vital to the publishing industry? If yes/no, why do you say so?
I want to believe that African romances will become increasingly important to the publishing industry because, in more and more  African countries, there is an increasing love of and demand for all genres of African fiction.

What traditional food do you love, that one can only find in Africa? (Provide picture, if possible) 
Bobotie came to South Africa centuries ago, so I believe it counts. I like the contrast of curried meat or fish, and the topping of a baked custard; of course it must be served with yellow rice cooked with raisins. Little side dishes of sliced banana, coconut, and maybe some chutney complement the dish perfectly. I love the mix of curry and sweetness.




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